I'm going to try to revive this thread.
Tau does the mom-dot thing traditionally, I guess. You get your mom when you go throught the pledging ceremony. I suppose I kind of wish it were done a little differently. See, the girl who became my sis-mom was on the Panhellenic side of rush, so I never met her when I came to any of the parties. I don't remember her being there on bid day (she has a band and is always in & out of chapter activities). I think the first time I met her was when I was actually pledged. I never spent any time with her, really, before I was initiated, for the same reasons. She didn't come to my NM weekend because her brother's bar mitzvah was that night.... I mean I know there are some things you can't change but it was sad when everyone else had their families and I didn't
We got to Initiation and Feast and she only learned that I wasn't from CANADA at all while we were sitting at the table during Feast!
Now that I'm initiated and living in the chapter house, we know each other better, but I guess my point is that I wish I could have had a big, or even a sis-mom, that I knew a little better, one that knew me at all! I mean, everyone else in the chapter knew that I was from the US, but not my sis-mom. Felt kinda sad.... it would definitely have helped my transition into AGD if I had had a more "guiding" sister-mother there with me.