One of my roomates is also a pnm. It is our panhellenic's policy that "long standing friendships" get some special consideration during rush. A long standing friendship is considered one that has existed for over one year. I've known my roomate for three so she's allowed to ride in my car (we carpool to and from campus), I can lend her money for a soda, I can be alone in a room with her without any other sorority sisters or px's present (duh we live together). Of course we can't talk about rush itself, and we still have to observe some more sort of silence on bid day, but it's alot looser than with other pnms. It's not like we'll really have TIME to talk about rush once the week actually begins, we'll be running around on different schedules and dead tired at night. I think this policy exists because we have quite a few upper classmen who rush (like my roomate) and limiting their contact with sisters would be silly. I plan on acting like nothing's different, and avoiding the subject of rush as much as I possibly can. I don't want it to come between us, or make her feel like she's getting special treatment for reasons other than that we live together. It's kind of a sticky situation personally, but at least I don't have to worry about getting an infraction on my house for living with her.
