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Originally posted by AmerAKAs Most Wanted:
Hello everyone,
I just couldn't resist...I have sat back and read long enough...I am just itching to add my $19.08 worth. So here goes........ First of all...let me say that I agree with TickledPink and Shalom2u.
I think that obeying and submitting is a process that requires growth and maturation as a Christian. As a Christian( and I have grown over the years) I know that God will not lead me down the wrong path ( you must not only know Christ, you must TRUST him as well). The word OBEY was a part of our marital vows. I, too, believe that my husband is the head of the household. I know that he loves me just as he loves himself. I know that if someone entered our home with the thought of taking the life of someone in this house that my husband would sacrifice his life because he loves me so much that he is willing to die for me (and thats powerful). When there are decisions to be made (major&minor) We discuss them. My husband would never make a decision without first thinking it over and because we became one when we said our vows , that includes listening and taking to heart what I have to say.To do otherwise, and make a decision without hearing me would be demeaning to me...and a true man of Christ would not do that because then it would be demeaning to himself as well...because again he must love his wife just as he loves himself. I am not saying that we always agree with each other ..but we always hear and respect the differing opinions.
I think "obey" is taken out of context and is turned into a "Master"(husband)..."Servant"(wife)....type situation when you have a husband who has not grown spiritually.........and is, therefore, acting off of a lack of knowledge..in other words....."he don't know no betta"..but now ask yourself and be honest when you answer " was he that way when you met.....dated....became engaged...and then..married him?
I'm not saying that I have always thought this way..heck...I never thought that I would be one who would "OBEY" any MAN..but I have grown spiritually and I refuse to let the opinions of others stand in my way of doing..."what thus sayeth(SP) the Lord"...because then I would be willing to have my "blessings blocked".
Now..Question for Mandingo Nupe...are you saying that a woman who chooses to "obey" her husband is not a strong woman? If so....I have to disagree with you on that. But let me know....
Having said all of that ..I'm OUT!!!!!!
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thats cool...but not everyone has it like that...if you are fortunate enough to have a man in your life like that...good for you
but...it is not always like that and some men take "obey" out of context...so i would hope that if women choose to leave that in their vows...there is a clear understanding of the original context of the word...and the fact that "obey" requires mutual obedience and respect...and that a womans opinion in family decisions is just as valid as her husbands...whether she is a "house wife" or has a full-time career...her place is BESIDE her husband...not in the general court...
before mandingnupe answers...in response to your question to him...let me say this...if a woman chooses to "obey" her husband and is led down the wrong path due to her lack of take charge initiative when need be...that results in a sad situation...i would just hope that a woman that has it in her mind to obey her husband is not doing so to get or keep a man...and as i said before is doing so with the full understanding that if she puts her foot down on an issue...her husband must equally accept her decision as he would expect her to accept his...i believe there is also a passage about being UNEQUALLY yoked...keep that in mind...balance is key to everything...including marriage...
[This message has been edited by VctoriasSecrt (edited April 24, 2001).]