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Originally posted by Discogoddess:
For those of you who believe that the husband is the head of the household, what does that mean? What is he head of? Does he make the final decisions of the household? Does his vote count more than the wife's or as a tie breaker in a disagreement? Does he make the "big" decisions, concerning money, where to live, etc.? What happens if he makes a decision that has a negative effect on him and/or the wife/family--do you keep quiet or voice an opinion? What do you do when he wanders away from his Christian walk and you (the wife) stay on yours? Do you still view him as the head and follow his decision/lead?
I'm curious to know what exactly we're speaking of when we use these terms...
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****Shalom2U wrote a long post Discogoddes***
For me and my household, it means that my husband is the Leader, yes, the CEO of our little unit---and that is a sash and crown I am happy to take off and let him wear (longgg story and testimony so I won't go there). Although he makes the final decisions for our household when it effects us as a whole, he doesn't make personal decisions for my welfare and well being, even though I probably should have gotten his opinion on a certain hairdo/cut that I ended up getting and looking like Moe from the 3-Stooges! And no, his vote doesn't count more then mine (oh he wish he did have it like that cause he'd have a 61" HDTV sitting up in our little den right now).
When it comes to "big" decisions, he learned the HARD way to not only pray and seek GOD'S face for direction, but to ask me if GOD has spoken anything to my heart concerning that "big" decision. See, he learned the HARD way that Leadership is not Dictatorship and when it comes to "big" decisions, it is wise to "touch and agree" as the WORD directs us to do. Yes, there has been a few times where brotha-man with his big ol'man self went and made a decision that not only had negative effects, but the reprecussion (sp) and residue from his decision seem to last forever and ever and ever (and no amen)---did I keep quiet---HECK NO, but after throwing it up in his face and running it in the ground, the LORD reminded me to stop the nagging, get behind him and hold the brotha-man up!
In the one time brotha-man not only wandered, but gallopped as he did, I just held on to my LORD's hand, agreed with the LORD that my salvation was my salvation, and that I would be held accountable for my walk and how I conducted myself through the storm---Shalom2U put the whole armour on, kept her head held up high and stayed the course all the while declaring the WORD over brotha-man's position as Leader over his household. Yes, I had to speak to the North, the South, the East and the West regarding my husband, his headship and his honor before the LORD.
We are still learning, after twelve years, yes, we are still learning. My husband still makes mistakes in his position as Leader, yet we honor the WORD and know that ultimately, if we continue to honor the WORD's way over the World's way, we will see and experience marriage like only the LORD can bless. For me, it hasn't been easy giving up my old nature of running thangs, yet I'm finding out daily that as I submit, surrender and respect my husband, he will not take it to the "Kizzie" role, rather, he smiles and with love in his eyes, thanks me for having his back---and I've found that when he reverts back to "Cave-man", I simply give him my look, go to my room and talk to my Heavenly Father because HE knows how to talk to my husband---even in his sleep!
Speaking of submitting, let me get off GC cause brotha-man looking at his watch and checking me on the computer (he needs to use it before we go to bed)...
Shalom Discogoddes~