Hello everyone,
I just couldn't resist...I have sat back and read long enough...I am just itching to add my $19.08 worth. So here goes........ First of all...let me say that I agree with TickledPink and Shalom2u.
I think that obeying and submitting is a process that requires growth and maturation as a Christian. As a Christian( and I have grown over the years) I know that God will not lead me down the wrong path ( you must not only know Christ, you must TRUST him as well). The word OBEY was a part of our marital vows. I, too, believe that my husband is the head of the household. I know that he loves me just as he loves himself. I know that if someone entered our home with the thought of taking the life of someone in this house that my husband would sacrifice his life because he loves me so much that he is willing to die for me (and thats powerful). When there are decisions to be made (major&minor) We discuss them. My husband would never make a decision without first thinking it over and because we became one when we said our vows , that includes listening and taking to heart what I have to say.To do otherwise, and make a decision without hearing me would be demeaning to me...and a true man of Christ would not do that because then it would be demeaning to himself as well...because again he must love his wife just as he loves himself. I am not saying that we always agree with each other ..but we always hear and respect the differing opinions.
I think "obey" is taken out of context and is turned into a "Master"(husband)..."Servant"(wife)....type situation when you have a husband who has not grown spiritually.........and is, therefore, acting off of a lack of knowledge..in other words....."he don't know no betta"..but now ask yourself and be honest when you answer " was he that way when you met.....dated....became engaged...and then..married him?
I'm not saying that I have always thought this way..heck...I never thought that I would be one who would "OBEY" any MAN..but I have grown spiritually and I refuse to let the opinions of others stand in my way of doing..."what thus sayeth(SP) the Lord"...because then I would be willing to have my "blessings blocked".
Now..Question for Mandingo Nupe...are you saying that a woman who chooses to "obey" her husband is not a strong woman? If so....I have to disagree with you on that. But let me know....
Having said all of that ..I'm OUT!!!!!!
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