So if we don't agree with the author of the thread, we can't say anything?
Yes of course you can comment if you don't agree. That's not what I said at all. It's a sign of emotional maturity and good communication skills to do it
without being mean, nasty or hurtful though. The distinction isn't unclear. It's also not that damn hard to disagree with someone without being unecessarily unpleasant about it.
It's funny how no one thought they were being rude, mean, belittling, etc, when they posted 3 pages about "Abby" and said ALL sorts of terrible things about someone they don't even know! Yeah terribly unjustified wasn't it <- sarcasm.
Let's see an except from that original email shall we? Yeah, LETS
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you don't have an once of what it takes to be in a sorority and much less to make one. You lack motivation, self drive, and in a nut shell personality. You could not stick it out for 2 weeks to have someone expect something from you. So in what world do you think that anyone would want to help you, for long if any, if they can see the weakness in you. And by the way to be a sister you have to have sisters. So get a life.
And then take a look at the comments which lead you to infer, as you did, that GC people were being "rude, mean, belittling". The thread comments say she sounds ignorant (of basic courtesy we assume...) or that the sender of the email SOUNDS bitter (and you're questioning THAT????!!) or that what she did was totally uncouth (again surely not under debate??). To put it bluntly... God only knows how you can try to imply you're comparing like with like when comparing the venomous personal attack of the email to commentary condemning it here.
-- Richard
<paraphrase> All that is required for evil to flourish is for good 'men' to do nothing. Winston Churchill (I think).