I had to reply to this since I am married. I married later in life so was quite independent and confident about taking care of myself and my business without the help of a man--but LOVE got me(LOL). Anyway, I am very opinionated and consider myself a moderate feminist. I have read many books by feminist mainly those of bell hooks. I am a Christian--baptist to be exact. I was counseled as was my husband about a wife submitting to her husband when there is a disagreement about an issue the family faces. I have a big problem with this concept since I am a woman that has a degree and works each day. In other words, I do have a brain and it works just as well as a man's when it comes to making decisions. I think that my husband and I share equally in the submission concept. I think there should be a balance of power in a marriage. My husband and I share that power and it works just fine. When he is wrong, I tell him and vice-versa. However, if he is wrong and we argue and if I think I am right--I will hold the line until the end.(I usually win--LOL) I think the fact that I work makes the concept obsolete, because the Bible also says somewhere around that submission verse that a man should take care of his family. I choose to have a career. Now, if I were a housewife being taken care of by my man--then maybe we can talk about the submission issue on a more level playing field. However, since I am a woman with a career and pay bills (too) then we are an equal partnership in this submission business.
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