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Originally posted by AXOLiz
I've noticed the obsession with total and I think it sucks. We've ended up taking girls who we knew didn't fit our chapter or would be a problem from the beginning - and guess what - they turned out to be big problems and either deactivated or gave everyone else hell or were just plain miserable. Or we took the ones that were super nice and had so much "potential for growth." Ok, fine, I personally believe every freshman will definitely grow, but why are we taking sophomores and juniors that can "grow"? If you're excepting them to change and suddenly become less shy and turn into super rushers, that's:
1) Not going to happen.
2) Unfair because it means you don't want the girl for who she is, you want her for who you want to try to turn her into.
3) Not staying true to the membership criteria, because last time I checked, "nice" wasn't one of them.
Yes, I hate super-exclusive chapters that make a point about bragging about it. But frankly, when you start giving everyone and their mother a bid, that's when your numbers start going down. I'm sick of seeing chapters pushed into taking people they shouldn't solely for numbers when chances are, if they were more picky about who they gave bids to and worked on developing a stronger sisterhood, quality girls would start becoming interested.
As heinous as it sounds...no one wants to be in the chapter that gives bids to EVERYONE because you never know who you'll end up with.
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I feel for you. Phi Gam used to do that and at one point we took on a buncha girls who were there just for an extra set of Greek letters (they knew our sisters from a music fraternity). We ended up getting royally screwed because a lot of those sisters stopped participating. Also, those who did participate more so to make up for the laziness of sisters mentioned above got burned out and stopped participating as well.
However, I've got to admit that my pledge sister is an exception to this. Our president (and her Big) saw the potential she had to become a great sister. I've got to admit that I didn't see it until i-week, but now she is
so determined to keep us going. She really came out of her shell.