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I'm not an expert, but since my father passed away, my mother has told me so much about their marriage that has blown my mind, and taught me a lot. You have to work for your marriage, I mean REALLY work for it. You have to sacrifice, compromise, challenge, and tire. You have to listen, talk, be willing to be wrong, and share the blame.
Delt Alum-Sigmagrrl- LXAAlum-Valkyrie
ALL terrific posts! Now another addition...
I DO think there is a mid life "crisis" of sorts. Maybe it's more like
apoint in time where you make a decision that what you have IS worth it. There are so many opassages in one's life. The FIRST is when you see your friends getting married. Then come the babies, next divorce. What's next? Your parents either dying or needing assisted living. This is a part of life. Of course sometimes life is cruel and these things happen far too soon, before we , as an individual, have the strength to withstand the pain. We are always growing through our experiences.
Love is an ever changing emotion. Think of the gambit your feelings have run with those closest to you in your life.
There was an old movie with Bruce Dern called Middle Aged Crazies (I THINK) and it was pretty darn accurate of what a man might feel. I'm not ignoring the feelings of women, just applying it to the initial post. The thing is, we all reach a point when we think is this what I WANT? It's connected to aging and our fear of losing our youth...I HONESTLY believe this, though I couldn't prove it. I wouldn't write them off as a couple but I don't know them. Maybe he needs a moment to BREATHE. I have ALWAYS believed men are under a considerable amount of stress. Regardless of the wife working or not, there are social as well as financial pressures that women are only beginning to experience.
Valkyrie...I remember a moment too. I think if we are really honest, most of us have that one moment in time... We just made different choices, but I understand.
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