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OK.
Relax. Not all marriages end up that way - some do, but....
I'm 36 - right in the middle of the mid-life crisis age.
I'm very happily married, and have been so for almost 12 years. Three kids. All three not planned. All three fantastic, however.
Two years ago, four of the five couples we used to hang out with all announced they were divorcing within a three month timespan. We were afraid to call the fifth for a long time (they are doing fine, btw).
Two were the man leaving, the other the woman. All were aldultery related divorces.
Since the day my wife and I married, I've been committed to the rest of our lives together. We've had our moments, as all couples do, but, we have made it so far, and are stronger and more intimate than ever.
Sometimes people just let life overtake them, for whatever reason, and they decide to make rash changes - that is the "mid life crisis" - thankfully, I haven't had one, nor plan on it. I'm right where I wanted and believed I would be before I was married - educated, employed, making decent money, a father, and a homeowner. I think a lot of people get unreasonable expectations - and the reality of the real world of marriage bursts a bubble (i.e. I lived on credit cards and barely-above minimum wage for one year after getting my Master's - NOT what I was expecting from advanced education, but that was the reality of the economy at the time).
We realized that in order for each one of us to be successful in life, it meant it would take BOTH of us working together to make us successful individually.
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