[valkyrie]

Damn, this thread could have been written about me. I've experienced it.

I haven't talked about it at all here, but what the hell. I am someone who left a marriage. For all I know, we looked like a happy couple to anyone on the outside, but I was slowly growing more and more unhappy every day.

We were together for about 3 years when we got engaged and were engaged for almost 2 years. After being married for about 2 1/2 years, I basically left, but he was the one who moved out at my request. I think he was actually shocked.

Maybe some of you think I'm a terrible person and that people give up too easily. Maybe either or both of those are true, but until you've been there you really can't say. I think that I just slowly fell out of love over the course of our relationship. I think he's a great guy and I think that he deserves to find someone who will be happy with him and not just barely tolerating the relationship. I also think that if you fall out of love with someone, and it can happen without you even knowing why, it's impossible to get it back, ever. I stood there on my wedding day thinking that I was doing the right thing and I would be with him the rest of my life.

Knowing that this can happen scares the holy hell out of me. Because it happened to me, I know damn well that it could happen to someone else, and for all I know the guy I'm with now could fall out of love with me someday. It's scary, but it's just a risk you take being in love.

I don't mean to sound like I'm all down on love or relationships or anything, but I just thought I'd provide the other perspective.