[Nhfulmer]

I went home for lunch and was telling my husband about this thread. He reminded me that the chapter he advises pledged a gay last spring. Apparently the boy was openly gay but that was not common knowledge. If any of the brothers knew it, they didn't speak up during discussion sessions. When it became known within the chapter, there was such an uproar and rift among the brothers that the boy was asked to leave the chapter. He was not blackballed but he would have been had he not voluntarily quit. The brothers felt extremely uncomfortable having him around and since he openly dated, they were terrified that he would show up at the formal with a "date". If they had known during recruitment, he would never have gotten a bid.