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Well just kind of commenting to the post above mine (Hootie), I agree with you. I don't think it should be a definite for legacies to get a bid. I can add another reason/perscpective to that.
I am not a legacy at all. My mom wasn't in a sorority and neither were any of my grandmothers. The closest I will ever come to being a legacy is that both my aunts were Chi-O's at my school, but that just gives me 2 strongs recs - not a legacy position. And even if it did make me a legacy, I wouldn't have gone Chi-O. They are a great chapter (a lot of people consider them the best at my school), but they just aren't me. We had things to talk about and very pleasent conversations, but I could tell my heart was elsewhere. I wouldn't want them to feel any obligation towards me, and I wouldn't want to have to feel any obligation towards them because of my aunts. Then that bond will have just been formed on obligation, and not truthfully in your heart. That is a HUGE reason why I loved DG. DG kept inviting me back even though they were the only sorority I didn't have recs for. We just made that connection - and I knew they liked me for who I was, and not what an alumna wrote on a sheet of paper. I feel like maybe that would be a downside of being a legacy. I sure as heck wouldn't want a sorority to extend me a bid only because of my status.
Now, if every sorority where to extend bids to their legacies first - and then they would sort out the rest, what would happen to girls like me? What if the legacies that go through make up so much of the quota that I am not able to get a bid even though I probably clicked with the girls better. Just because you are a legacy doesn't mean you and the chapter will click. People and attitudes change over the years and so do chapters.
There is no easy explination for the question - but I have to third the person who said "I don't think you should always take a legacy, but I think there should be a good reason not to if you decide this is the case." - but I guess the next question is, how do you tell their mom or grandmother the reason when they call all upset? Honestly, what would the girl say to her mother and grandmother is she didn't like the chapter, and the reason she cut them. You don't want to hurt anyones feelings - no one does.
Sticky!!!!
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