[astroAPhi]

I was prepared to cry like a little baby if I didn't get a bid from Alpha Phi. Because of the pressure not to suicide, I didn't, even though I should have. But if I had gotten a bid from XYZ, my 2nd listing on my bid card, I probably would have sucked it up and joined. I would have gotten along well with what would have been my pledge class, but I'm not sure about the girls who would have come after me. Who knows if I would have stayed.

But sometimes life has a funny way of working out. We had a girl join a few years before I did who KNEW she wanted to be XYZ, but put Alpha Phi second on her pref card because she went to both prefs. On Bid Day she opened her card and saw Alpha Phi, not XYZ. She was heartbroken. She made her way over to her new sisters and tried not to cry as she accepted her bid. 3 years later she was Greek Woman of the Year for the entire campus and was very proud to be Alpha Phi. She realized later that Alpha Phi had been a much better match.

But on the flipside, we had a girl who thought she was getting a bid from XYZ who got a bid from us, and pinned, but depledged immediately afterward because XYZ realized they had made an oops. But she never ended up afilliating after her one-year waiting period.