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Originally posted by justamom
I don't know why, but your post just hit me in the heart...
Sweetie, have you considered talking to the recruitment chair?
Are you too shy to ask her face to face? I would bet a LOT of people reading GC are in your situation, but haven't mentioned it.
I think if it were me, I'd talk to the chairman privately and tell her you really are disappointed and sad you will miss the opportunity to meet the PNMs. Ask her what you need to improve on or maybe you could be paired with someone.
I KNOW a lot of sororites have designated rushers. They are the girls who have the image the sorority wants to "put out" there, OR the ability to pull people out of their shells. Sometimes the advisors have some influence too.
It's probably because the PNMs are looking at the actives just as hard as the actives are looking at THEM. This is a solid strategy when you are competing for the same PNMs. I think we've all heard stories about this happening from time to time and it sure isn't a great way to make a sister feel.
Personally, I think they should pair you up with someone and give you the opportunity to polish up on your recruiting skills. It IS a skill, ad you have to admire anyone who is good at it. HOWEVER- I think EVERYONE should take a turn behind the scenes-well maybe not the committee or the Prez, but you won't get any better at rushing if you don't get the opportunity to try!
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I did talk to her at the time and she told me not to take it personally its just that they needed to put our veteran
(read good) rushers out there. Thing is it IS really hard not to take it personal and its exactly true that there is no way i can get better if ive never ever even had much experience! Then again i see why it is important for the house to have good rushers. This is why i really want to get better, maybe if i go and talk to our new rush chairman once rush workshops start again, she could help me? sometimes i just feel like even wiht all the workshops and stuff then there must just be something inheritly wrong so then i just maybe belong behind the scenes. But then how can you justify voting on PNMS you dont even know because you were just hanging out in an unused part of the house just until they needed you in an emergency. Then i feel bad because i feel its every rushers job to know as much as possible about the PNMs. Aaaah the whole thing makes me nervous. Any more advice, support or tips are really welcome!