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Originally posted by 1focused1
Hello ladies, I am usually a silent observer. I just wanted to comment on this. I think I understand your question. I know of girls who are not interested in organizations who go to rushes, teas, informationals, just events all together, to see who is there so that they can find out who is interested in what organization. Like someone said earlier, it's hard for the young ladies who are trying to be discreet, but who are trying to show their interest in an organization by supporting their events. So, when someone sees you at an event or many events given by the same organization, and they have diarrhea at the mouth telling people they saw you there, it's hard to maintain a certain level of discretion.
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I can totally realte to this. Even though I am not actively pursuing membership in a BGLO (a sista's just trying to graduate), I have experienced what MsFoxyLoxy77 is speaking of. I have attended events that are open to the public, and found that often times people that are not interested will attend just to see who is there. If you go to a school where everyone basically knows or knows of each other, then your business is out in the street no matter what you do. People will say stuff that makes you look bad, even if it's not the truthm in front of members just b/c they know of your interest. That's always something you have to worry about. Also, it is not only what IG's you associate or befriend that you have to watch, but what friends and people in general you associate yourself with. Unfortunately, that can hurt you also, even if the beef has nothing to do with you...I have heard of instances where a person's chances were hurt just because they were friends or even casual associates with someone else. You really have to use discretion and think about what you are doing and saying before you do it (even on the internet...b/c six degrees of seperation is real!)...B/c once your chances are hurt, you may not be able to redeem yourself...I think that as long as you make attempts to be as discrete as possible and do not go around telling people about your interest, then people can assume all they want that you are an interest of ABC but they have no concrete evidence, so it should be ok...I would just take the advice of what everyone has said to heart and be yourself and respectful and don't worry about the haters b/c they are everywhere!!!
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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
One would not have made that comment if she, herself what not interested at one time... She herself is rebuking the system that has developed for individuals to join sororities... The question is, how should one show interest in a sorority given what the members themselves are unable to do?
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I agree with this. This gets to the bottom of the issue regarding why they care in the first place. Why talk trash about IG's of ABC org if you are not an interest yourself? This shows that you were probably interested at one time but they were rejected or have absolutely no chance in obtaining membership...which is sad for them b/c they have nothing better to do than be all up in your business...
I have experienced this too, and the best thing to do in that situation is just keep your mouth shut and don't peep a word (if you defend them too much, your interest is known, if you don't and agree then you are obviously a fool)...and then distance yourself from that person(s)...