[blutifulRho]

I must admit that seeing a black guy with a white woman use to bug the hell out of me...I use to say to myself ...now what did he find in her that he couldnt find in a black woman. I think... i thought that way because i had an us against them mentality...To see an allie with the ememy burned real bad....and words like trator and sellout would pop out of my mouth.

I think most men dont understand that historically black women have gotten the raw end of the stick countless times...being taken out of a culture where we were respected and cheried and brought to a country where we were treated worst than animals...were we where demeaned..and where we were torn from our children and husbands ...where our bodies were no longer ours but that of the Master...

We had to learn to survive all that... we had to learn how to be strong and how to survive. Now i have spoken to some brothers who say well black women are too independent..or they are too controlling...or they dont know when to let a man be a man, so you cant blame a brother for going to a white woman as they seem to be more compromising and much more willing to let a man be a man..

The fact is that if any black man out there truly see my independence as a black women to be so threatning that he seeks to date a white woman (whom is often perceived as being more complilant to his needs) then fell free to have an interracial relationship...I dont want a man in my life that see my strenght as his weakness. What you should do is appreciate that independence(and when i say independence i dont mean...ohh i am so independent i dont need no man ) I mean my ability to go against all the obstcle that have been placed in front of me and overcoming them all.

Why cant u just see that quality and appreciate that i just dont want a man to see what i can get...but that i want to get my own so that i can bring something to my relationship and unite with my man as one strong force to be reckon with.