"if you can't tell someone what you do because it's THAT BAD, it's probably wrong. but if you DON'T tell someone what you do because you're LOYAL...that's trust and honesty within the organization.
etienne
sigma alpha iota-the hartt school of music"
I agree with you totally. There is a huge difference between loyalty and 'covering up'. I have never told a soul anything about our rituals, initiation, house secrets,etc. In our chapter, even something a sister tells you in confidence is considered chapter secrecy. Our sisterhood is tight enough that we can handle it. And its not because any of it was bad, but because I loved my sisters and my house so much, that things like that should be kept within the "family" of AGD's. My parents had a hard time understanding this, and understandably so;I'm the only person in my family to go greek, so with all the bad media, they were kinda worried(they're okay with it now). But my friends from home- totally different story. One of them actually told me that if I didn't tell her then I must not consider her a friend, which is totally not true. But I earned the priviledge to learn those secrets, and if they were shared with just anyone, they'd no longer be special and my bond with my sisters would not be what it is. If someone is telling their ritual from any house, its such a disappointment to the others in the house, and its sad when you know someone's loyalty to you isn't as strong as yours for them.
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