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Originally posted by 1focused1
Hello ladies, I am usually a silent observer. I just wanted to comment on this. I think I understand your question. I know of girls who are not interested in organizations who go to rushes, teas, informationals, just events all together, to see who is there so that they can find out who is interested in what organization. Like someone said earlier, it's hard for the young ladies who are trying to be discreet, but who are trying to show their interest in an organization by supporting their events. So, when someone sees you at an event or many events given by the same organization, and they have diarrhea at the mouth telling people they saw you there, it's hard to maintain a certain level of discretion.
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Thank you 1focused1, you hit the nail on the head.
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Originally posted by nachural
well from reading past posts by members, I feel that your aquaintance, who seems to be all up in it, shouldnt be your aquaintance as an interest. Since she isnt an ig and you are, members might associate you with her and think you are not interested as well.
Just dont let her non interest rub off on you. Make the members well aware you are not like her. I think member friend endroad said her sorors are always watching you so watch your company.
and stay nachural
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Nachural thank you for the insightful response. The afore mentioned acquaintance is not an acquaintance of mine by choice but rather by association in the same organization. We are in the same major society so I politely respond to her greetings at chapter meetings. Otherwise I have never changed my distant behavior towards her because we were never friends.
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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
One would not have made that comment if she, herself what not interested at one time... She herself is rebuking the system that has developed for individuals to join sororities... The question is, how should one show interest in a sorority given what the members themselves are unable to do?
Many of my sands in other chapters that entered under similar circumstances as I in an undergraduate chapter, were told: "Birds of a feather flock together..." It is a matter of what is important to you. If you desire a goal, will you let someone stop you? Who is going to be in control of your achievement? And why would you care if someone says anything? Are you not going to do what you ultimately what to do in the long run?
Maybe I have gotten too old to relate to this stuff, so I'll stop here...
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I truly took your response to heart. I think you do yourself a great injustice by saying that maybe you have gotten too old to relate to this post. This wisdom in your post refutes that statement. I think you have uncovered the source of the acquaintance's behavior. Now that you mention it, I can believe that she probably did have interest in a sorority. To answer your questions: No one will stop me from reaching for my goals. I am and have always been in control of my own achievement. Of course I must give my gratitude to my mother and father for showing me the way. The only reason why I would care if someone says anything would be if and only if the members on my campus related individuals' "knowledge" of what sorority I and other sisterfriends have decided to pursue with us actually telling these nosy individuals. Yes, I am going to do what I ultimately feel is right in the long run.
Again thank you for your post AKA_Monet you and everyone else who responded gave me quite a few things to consider.
