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Hello all,
I agree with all of the replies made thus far.
However, I have found as an interest, that it is somewhat INEVITABLE to hide your interest forever. I say this b/c if the chapter you are interested in holds regular functions, which hopefully you are attending, people are going to see you there. (Arriving, leaving, etc.) That was one of my biggest fears when I first started attending events and making my interest known. (Who saw me? Who knows? What do they think?) But, as long as you are NOT running your mouth to others about which org you want to join, which members you've been talking to, what they said, then you'll be okay.
I would also advise every sisterfriend to strongly watch the dynamic between the members in your chapter of interest and the other interested girls (IGs) BEFORE you become friends with another IG ask yourself: Which IGs are consistent? Do the members like/know her? How does she present herself *both* at events and in general (i.e. around campus)?
There is a difference between being friendly (which we should always do) and BEFRIENDING someone. Once you've been able to identify some of these IGs, paired with the fact you are **equally prepared & together-of course**, start to talk to some of the other IGs. I did this and it has really proved to be beneficial to me. It's not an exact science...I'm still trying to politely shake off 2 IGs who I know are just trying to pump me for info...but that's a totally different topic.
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Since I brought it up, my question to both members & sisterfriends is:
How do you distance yourself from a shady IG? You know, the girl who is too busy for events, doesn't know ANY of the members, but always wants to call you afterwards to ask "What happened?"
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