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Originally posted by sugar and spice
But speaking for me, I'd rather have a great sister than someone who looks good on paper but isn't there for me.
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AMEN AMEN AMEN....
We had a sister like that...and I was the first to say let's terminate her. Good grades, activities, popular on campus, morally straight...but she was never there for her little or big. She was never there for the duties of her office. She was never there just to hang out and have fun. Some people were like "but she is such a good image for us." I said "who cares? I want sisters, not images." After the chapter terminated her, she fought it, and apparently national overturned it - because she looked soooooo good on paper. I'll be damned, though, if I will ever again call her my sister.
There's a BIG BIG BIG difference between a girl who between high school and college grows out of an image that probably hasn't been true since the 7th grade - and a girl who is mentally instable or needs help beyond what the most loving sorority can give her. Some of the high school "sluts" or "geeks" or "dummies" or "troublemakers" may not have wanted to continue in that image, but if the only time you receive attention is when you conform to that image, you sometimes stay in it. Also, if your friends REALLY are like that, you may get pegged as that whether it's true or not. You might get pegged as a pothead because you hang out with the potheads, even if you never touch the stuff, but if they're the nicest people at your school, why dump them because of an image?
I remember right before I started college there was a (of all things) deodorant ad in magazines about going off to college that said at the end "today you get a fresh slate. Make the most of it." I felt so much better when I read that because I realized I wasn't going to be stuck in the image I got pinned with when I was 12.
Well this is going off on a tangent...but all I can say is, if the people that tormented you in HS are all going to Podunk U, tear up your application.
