[quote]Originally posted by Discogoddess:
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A BIT LONG
I also disagree with the comment about effeminate gay men, made by another poster. I CANNOT STAND the ghettoness of MANY, MANY of my family, neighbors and others,
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I am not sure if you are referring to my post or not, but since I mentioned that point, I'll respond:
I am glad you compared effeminate behavior to extreme "ghettoness" because, I feel the way about both. I would not presume to tell either how to live their life, but I certainly don't think its wrong for me to disagree with their behavior.
Do I think ghetto behavior is a problem and a possible liability to our people? YES
Do I think effeminate behavior is a problem in our community and a possible liability to our people? YES
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Originally posted by Discogoddess:
but I don't have the right to dictate when and where people can express themselves, simply because it irritates, embarrasses or offends me.
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I don't think that people are neccesarily trying to dictate how people express themselves, but even in our "touchy feely politically correct" society, I think that I still have the right to be irritated and say so. I think that peoples inability to really discuss issues that affect us without being fearful about stepping on toes, creates a certain type of resentment.
A person may not necessarily be anti-gay,but when society tells us that we should give the same value to all customs and mores in society, and if we don't, we're bigots, I think that where a lot of the frustration comes from.
If all these different social customs, cultures, and other "preferences" are supposed to be acceptable and accepted by everyone, why doesnt one superculture exist where we all partcipate in a little of all customs and mores.
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Originally posted by Discogoddess:
Sexual expression and ghettoness ARE two different things, I know, but I compared them as an example.
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I think that the two types of behavior are more similar than one might think. I dont think effeminate behavior has a whole lot to do with, nor is it a pre-requisite to being a homosexual man.
[This message has been edited by HopefulJD (edited April 10, 2001).]