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I think because of my upbringing and the fact that my parents are only 4 years apart (my dad is older), that I have this subconscious idea that I shouldn't date guys any more than 4 years older than me. Reasons being:
I went out once or twice with a 21 year old when I just turned 16 (yuck... he was scary, but he bought me nice things for a few days... that was over quick).
Recently, I've been seeing a few people. One was a few months older than me, and in my opinion, he's "too young" for me (I'm 21). His personality is comparable to that of a 15 year old, which just didn't mesh. We're good friends, but otherwise, he reminds me of a horny teenager (for lack of a better comparison).
I also started seeing a 26 year old that was just going into his junior year at my school (I just graduated) as a transfer student. I liked him a lot at first, but after a few more conversations, i realized we don't have much in common, his goals are way off from mine, etc.
So now I've started seeing a 23 year old grad. student at my school. He's a TA, he's got a TON of the same interests as I do, we're on the same level socially and emotionally, he's driven to continue in education- like I am- and we have so much in common, but he's a couple years older... it's like it's perfect.
So in essence, I think it's ok to date older people, but a lot of the time, the priorities are going to be out of line with your own... I like having someone who understands me on all levels, not just someone who likes me because I'm cute, young, ambitious, and may be able to be bought off.
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