That's such an interesting comment that was made by your associate. It's interesting how we often think that we have the power to manipulate situations and circumstances so that we come out favorably. This young woman obviously believes that she has power to affect her sorors, sisters, friends, etc. attitude toward someone else. No one really has that power...they may influence another person's action, but they can't actually make anyone do anything that they otherwise would not have.
It does display your friends lack of familiarity with human nature and the overall human experience. She will learn eventually. I think it's reasonable to conclude that her comments were an artifact of her inexperience. Life's much bigger than what she has made it out to be.
Perhaps it will be good for you both to consider the bigger picture involved here. In life, there will always be persons whom will oppose your opinions, workstyle, style, religion, political perspective, etc. Your response is truly what will matter the most. Will you choose to hang in, endure, and move forward? Or, will you choose to enlargen the issue by attaching frivilous non-issues to it all? In the process, you will have people watching who will side for or against you. Through it all, you must figure a strategy to stand in the midst of it all while still not being caught being slack.
Hope that helps.
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I will bless the Lord at ALL times His praise shall continually be in my mouth. (Psalms 34:1, KJV)
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