[gamma_girl52]

This is a great thread.

I have been in a relationship for almost 6 years, and I got engaged when I was 21 (with the same guy I'm with now, of course). However, I wanted to wait until I was out of college before we got married. We are thinking of eloping after I graduate.

However, I felt compelled to respond after Darkcoco's post about family...it's true. I told my mother and sister about a situation when my fiancee and I were going through a bad time. They have not let up since then...they say they like him but still have little backhanded comments about him sometimes. They tend to worry because while I'm about to be a college graduate, my fiancee hasn't continued his education. They say, "we don't want you to end up taking care of everything". My fiancee has always been there for me financially, contributing to our household (we live together) and has always worked hard. And I do think that when he's ready he'll go on, education wise.

I have always tried too hard about pleasing my family and it was taking a major toll on my relationship. I had to decide, "when is it going to be MY life?" Every little comment bothered me. And then I would mess around and tell him what they said because I was upset. A vicious cycle. I have finally decided to break out of this by distancing myself a little from my family.

I know this is a marriage thread, but since this is on the horizon for me, do you guys think I'm doing the right thing? I still want to have a loving/positive relationship with my family, but at the same time I can't continue to be around people who sometimes support my relationship, and sometimes do not. Opinions please!