[Honeykiss1974]

I agree with Delph, that in a marriage, both partners MUST have a foundation rooted in Christ, in order for it to work. And of course love (outlined in I Corinthians 13). With that said, here is my opinion on a few other tidbits.

I believe that when you enter into marriage, you CAN NOT go into it with the expectation that this person is WILL NEVER CHANGE because guess what ...... they will. (I don't want this to come off bitter, so just keep reading and hear me out).

Think about it. Are you the same person that you were 10, 5, 2 years ago? Shoot, maybe even last weekend? Of course not. As we get older, its perfectly natural for us to grow and change as a person. IMHO, one key to loving your husband/wife unconditionally is being able to accept the fact that your partner will grow/change and learn how to respond to it as a couple.

**DISCLAIMER** This does not apply to EXTREME situations (i.e. mid-life crisis type stuff, sudden abusive behavior, drug use, etc. but just in general)

Additionally, I believe that couples can not be afraid of seeking therapy either. I know sometimes, especially in our community, therapy is seen as being as taboo, but we have got to overcome that mind-set. If you need professional help, by all means get it.