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Originally posted by Discogoddess:
I understand that...my question is, what is an independent thinker, and what is stubborn/hardheaded to you? It seems to me that many brothers consider a woman who doesn't take in all he has to say as the gospel truth a "rockhead," as you so...ummm..."interestingly" put it. I'm surprised to see so many sisters on here willingly use that word to describe themselves and others. (??!!)
Using stubborn/hardheaded and woman in the same sentence seems wrong to me. I always think of children when someone says/writes those words...and it seems to fall into that tired stereotype of the neck-poppin', loud-mouthed black woman that seems to be prevelant.
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I believe we may share the same definition of an independent thinker-someone that deduces their own answers using fact and little-if any opinion. If they use opinion, it's usually their own.
Stubborn, hard-headed are not synonomous: stubborn can be someone hard to convince; hard-headed is usually someone that can't be convinced-unless by themselves. Are you sure you know no women that suffer these characteristics?
I'm surprised you feel this way! By issuing that blanket, uncompromising statement you have, in essence contradicted yourself.
