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i started this thread back in '99! can you all believe that it is still active? the sweetheart question is one that still puzzles me. the whole 'helping the bruhs' thing is problematic. i have seen cooking, cleaning, servitude (passing out flyers, working the door, cleaning up). i have seen girls humiliated to get in, humiliated once they get in, and humiliation trying to separate from them after they find out the real deal.
my father is a kappa who pledged in '66. he knows nothing of pledging sweethearts. the had a chapter sweetheart who was elected by the chapter. they serenaded her, she rode on the float in the parade at homecoming, etc. it was an honor to be selected. but most of all she did not do a danggone thing to 'help' the bruhs.
women to choose this affiliation either don't know what they are getting in to and try to disaffiliate so that they can pledge or get a real boyfriend, or they just want to kick it with the bruhs, or a combination of both. i never understood the latter. no one needs a t-shirt to kick it with the bruhs. i have never seen girls turned away who wanted to help the bruhs.
i think it is a bad decision. far more cons than pros. mainly that national does not condone or recognize them (except for iota), some bruhs don't even recognize them, and whether or not you had to degrade yourself to get in, everyone thinks you did. lose-lose situation!
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