I made that correlation because, as I quoted in my first response, you said
"I decided to give my own people a try and visit the black salon. Never again." Not, I'll never go to
that shop again, but the inference, based on your sentence structure was that you would never visit a black salon again. Now, if I got the meaning incorrect becaue of your syntax, I appologize. I doubt that was the issue though, because of the little rant that you go on below.
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When it comes to service in the black community, sometimes it's slow. We do a lot of things slow. Not saying that the quality is lacking, but the service most times is. I know that EVERYTIME since the age of 13 when I started getting relaxers, I got to wait damn near 8 hours to get out the salon. Why?? Because OUR PEOPLE have to schedule 6 people at a time every hour. That makes no sense to me, other than trying to get all the money you can - and stylist know that NO black woman can go w/o getting her hair done at least once a month - so we take it and wait.
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You are right, sometimes hair stylists are slow, some times nail techs are slow, any one can be slow, but we vote with our dollars. I'm not saying you don't have every right to get your nails or hair for that matter, done by whomever you choose, but when you generalize, you sterotype people which is just not cool. I have a relaxer and I REFUSE to spend 5 or 6 hours in a salon like some people will. Ain't NO BODY that good. I'll drop your behind in a hot minute, but I attribute it to the INDIVIDUAL not "OUR PEOPLE" being "slow" as you did. I recently started going to a multicultural salon, although my individual stylist is Black. One thing that I have noticed is that while we do tend to spend a longer amount of time in the salon than our paler sisters, it has more to do with the nature of the style, than the stylist. I typically sit under the dryer for a while, then get my hair blow dried the rest of the way. Then she hot curls my hair. Most of the White women get the wash, blow dry and curl with the brush blow dryer thing. They are in and out a lot faster, but again, I'm not sitting around waiting.
I get tired of spending my whole Saturday in a hair salon, which is one of the reasons I have decided to go natural. (But that's a whole 'nother topic.)
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So before you get up on your 'high horse', don't go around making accusations about self hatred and putting words in my mouth. If the establishment messed up then yes, I'm not going do business with them again, straight up. And if they happen to be black, oh well. If they happento be white, oh well. If they happen to be asian, OH WELL.
And I don't have to let the business know of their poor performance. When I don't show up anymore, they'll get the picture. 
I love my people and don't EVER question me on that.  But in some areas, I feel like we need to get it together, seriously. It's sad, but we have to be real. It's something called TOUGH LOVE.
And I'm out...
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You know what, you are right, you don't have to let people know anything, but I think if we LOVE our people as we both say we do, we OWE it to them to hold them to a higher standard. You can't correct what you don't know. As it was explained to me, LOVE is an action verb. You gotta DO something with it. But, if you are fine with the fact that the black dollar turns over in our community something like 1.5 times while it turns over in the Asian community many, many more times than that, then hey, I'm
too. Actually, I'm not, but I can only do me, and point out where I see inconsistencies.