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Originally posted by Eclipse
Why is it that we will give other folks a million and one chances when they disappoint us, but when it come to BLACK folks that get one chance and we say stuff like "I'll never go to another black person to do XYZ again." How many of us have gone into a major department store (which, 99 times out of 100 is owned by someone white) and gotten poor service? How many times have we then said I am not going to shop at stores owned by white people again? When THEY mess up it is the doctor or sales clerk or waiter that had a problem. When WE mess up it is black stores this, and black lawyers/doctors that! What a pitiful form of self hatred!! And we wonder why "we" don't have anything.
Did you say anything about the poor performance? Did you let your expectations be known to the owner of the salon? Do you REALLY think that all black folks are alike and that since one person gave you poor service they ALL will give you poor service? Come on now! 
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O.K., I haven't checked this message board lately and I'm just reading your response.
First of all, whether you are white, black, asian, green or purple, if you mess up, I'M NOT GOING TO DO BUSINESS WITH YOU AGAIN, FLAT OUT. And just because I won't go to a black NAIL salon doesn't mean I have 'self-hatred' for myself.
How you made a correlation with that, I don't have a clue.
When it comes to service in the black community, sometimes it's slow. We do a lot of things slow. Not saying that the quality is lacking, but the service most times is. I know that EVERYTIME since the age of 13 when I started getting relaxers, I got to wait damn near 8 hours to get out the salon. Why?? Because OUR PEOPLE have to schedule 6 people at a time every hour. That makes no sense to me, other than trying to get all the money you can - and stylist know that NO black woman can go w/o getting her hair done at least once a month - so we take it and wait.
I get tired of spending my whole Saturday in a hair salon, which is one of the reasons I have decided to go natural. (But that's a whole 'nother topic.)
So before you get up on your 'high horse', don't go around making accusations about self hatred and putting words in my mouth. If the establishment messed up then yes, I'm not going do business with them again, straight up. And if they happen to be black, oh well. If they happento be white, oh well. If they happen to be asian, OH WELL.
And I don't have to let the business know of their poor performance. When I don't show up anymore, they'll get the picture.
I love my people and don't EVER question me on that.
But in some areas, I feel like we need to get it together, seriously. It's sad, but we have to be real. It's something called TOUGH LOVE.
And I'm out...
