[darling1]

Having planned my own wedding, I can tell you that our people can be downright TRIFLING.

I had family that RSVP'd and up until the day before said they were coming, only to not show up, not send a card/gift and give a BOGUS excuse.

If you set a reasonable deadline and folks have not responded, you MUST MOVE ON. If you treat folks like a $$$ sign, it will make your life a lot easier. You or someone you designate can call if you feel comfortable and do one last check. Most reception places give up until a few days before the wedding to make adjustments to the list. But set a deadline for this, perhaps making it June 30 and the go with that number.

In my instance it was a class issue. Most of my more 'cultured' family and friends responded in a timely fashion and sent a gift and/or card before the wedding. Ultimately I just thing that people are going to be people, but let them act out on their dime, not yours.

GOOD LUCK AND WELCOME TO MARRIAGE!!!!