Okay, here is the take from the resident wedding coordinator
(see other posts in Dear Abbey regarding that title
)
How do you
know that these 6 people have not received their thank-yous? Did they come right out and tell you - or your family members? This is important info because you need to know if it was casually said, or if it was said in a bitchy tone such as "Can you believe RedRoseSAI never bothered to send us a thank-you card? Some people are so tacky!"
If it was said in this type manner, then you need to pull out the good stationary (the stuff with the fancy initials, what-have-you) and send them a note that would read as such:
Dear Jane,
In talking with mom last week, I realized that you had never received a thank-you from Fred and me for the beautiful candy dish that you gave us. I remember sending those out a few weeks after our wedding, so I apologize for any delay in receiving yours. It was so wonderful to see you and Jack at our wedding. It was such a beautiful day and I am glad that I have such fond memories of sharing it with all my friends and family. The candy dish is a wonderful addition to our coffee table, and we thank you so much for thinking of us in such a special way!
Love, (for someone that you are really close to)
Warmest Regards, (for someone that you are not so close to)
RedRoseSAI (I suggest putting your *real* name here - LOL!)
Technically you have until ONE YEAR after your nuptials to say thank-you -- most brides don't wait that long, but you do have etiquette on your side there.
As for the people that you aren't sure of -- I will write more after my meeting and tell you how to handle that!