[33girl]

The $330 wedding people: I hope that they got some envelopes with Monopoly money in it and tried to spend it. Stupid tacky ass @#$%ers.

Cash bar and tackiness of: Anytime I've been to a cash bar, it's usually for just exotic things like the girly fruity mixed drinks - beer, wine and basic alcohols (yummy, Popov vodka) are free to the guests. Really, it all depends on the economic class of the people at the wedding. If most of the people there are on the poor side, they won't begrudge you about it.

Gifts vs money: Someone said that the shower is for gifts. Where I grew up, the shower is for family and intimate friends ONLY - not everyone you are inviting to your wedding. (Some showers are getting as big as the weddings though, which is tacky in itself) It used to be that the gifts were sent to the bride's home, which of course was her parents' home where she was still living. Of course that is not the case all the time anymore, which is why people bring presents to the wedding. It's not a big deal, you load 'em in the car and dump them at the rents' house and open them the next day or when you get back from the honeymoon. We used to have opening the presents at the wedding, but that is long gone. I would rather get a registry card and know what they want then have no clue. I get bored giving money.