This entire discussion is starting to sound cult-like.People can leave these organizations at any time. Why would you want someone to belong to your group when they dont really want to be there anymore? Thats so counterproductive. Before anyone gets too high and mighty, let me just say that part of being human is learning whats good for you and who you are as you go along. It doesnt end at 21 or when you join whatever, its a life long journey. Alot of the girls in my house stray or outright leave by senior year. I hate to say this but some of you are sounding like the gangs on Montel Williams who dont "let people leave."