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Originally posted by Shelacious
You are absolutely correct, unfortunately. That's because some people, in my experience, do not know that the addressed envelope provides the clue as to who is invited. Some folks think that bringing a guest to a wedding is encouraged or even a requirement to attend! For example, if the invitation is addressed:
-"Ms. Aunt Bertha & Guest": Aunt Bertha may bring a date or other guest if she desires.
-"Ms. Aunt Bertha": she is invited on the solo bolo; she should not invite any other person.
-"Ms. Aunt Bertha and XYZ": Aunt Bertha is invited, along with XYZ (see below for more info)
And for the brides: these folks should be included by NAME on the invitiation (not just by adding "& guest", even if you've never actually met them.)
-Your invitee's spouse
-Your invitee's fiance' (e)
-Your invitee's live-in SO (if the two are partnered and share a household, then both should receive an invite).
-Optional: Your invitee's long term SO (if they've been dating for years) although I know some folks might not invite both: I would though.
I forgot to add: I have recommended that brides might include the option of "& guest" to a single person if you are inviting them to travel a great distance (long overnight drive, plane, train). Unless they are staying at your house and/or you have actvities planned for them to do, it's difficult to visit an unfamiliar town and be expected to navigate it alone.
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You should be a wedding planner!
I dealt with all of the things mentioned previously: people RSVPing and not showing, people not RSVPing and showing (including a cousin who traveled about 600 miles to get there....HELLO!!! you obviously planned to be there! Why didn't you let ME know??? I forgave her though, becaus she gave us a VERY nice Check!
) people bringing
extra folks and the kicker was the person who told another person she was coming but did not RSVP, I called her to confirm and she said no, they couldn't come. She called me back 2 days later (about 3 days before the wedding) and said yes they were coming..would that be o.k. I worked it out with the caterer (we were having a formal, sit down dinner. Who ever said that make over was right), reordered the seating chart only to have them not show up!!
For those of you who are still in the planning mode, set your RSVP date 3 - 4 days before you really need it.. You are going to have those folks who put it in the mail the day it is due!