That is just WRONG. Can't afford a $330/pp wedding? Scale back your expectations, or wait to get married. My wedding didn't cost nearly that much, and was still beautiful. You don't need to spend a fortune on your wedding - at the end of the day, whether you have a huge gala event or a small family-only event (or elope!) you're still just as married.
As for the cash bar, very tacky. I've been at weddings where the cocktail hour is hosted and it's a cash bar for the rest of the reception. GRRR. At my own wedding, a full bar for the cocktail hour was part of the package... after that, we served wine only. Nobody complained, and nobody went home drunk.
