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Originally posted by Conskeeted7
The phone call strategy works, but just be sure that you get an exact count of how many people each phone call confirms. We called a few people who ended up bringing guests with them but didn't indicate it during the phone call. I guess we were suppsoed to assume that they'd have a guest. 
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You are absolutely correct, unfortunately. That's because some people, in my experience, do not know that the addressed envelope provides the clue as to who is invited. Some folks think that bringing a guest to a wedding is encouraged or even a requirement to attend! For example, if the invitation is addressed:
-"Ms. Aunt Bertha & Guest": Aunt Bertha may bring a date or other guest if she desires.
-"Ms. Aunt Bertha": she is invited on the solo bolo; she should not invite any other person.
-"Ms. Aunt Bertha and XYZ": Aunt Bertha is invited, along with XYZ (see below for more info)
And for the brides: these folks should be included by NAME on the invitiation (not just by adding "& guest", even if you've never actually met them.)
-Your invitee's spouse
-Your invitee's fiance' (e)
-Your invitee's live-in SO (if the two are partnered and share a household, then both should receive an invite).
-Optional: Your invitee's long term SO (if they've been dating for years) although I know some folks might not invite both: I would though.
I forgot to add: I have recommended that brides might include the option of "& guest" to a single person if you are inviting them to travel a great distance (long overnight drive, plane, train). Unless they are staying at your house and/or you have actvities planned for them to do, it's difficult to visit an unfamiliar town and be expected to navigate it alone.