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Going along with the self counseling idea . . .
Uhm, we don't know that there is no trust, warmth or whatever else in the relationship . . . from his point of view.
To her all those things are missing.
Basically she sounds bitter. I am not saying she doesn't have cause, but bitterness, and you older wiser GC'ers might know this better, is a wierd emotion that does nothing for you but make you miserable as well as make it hard to move on or simply enjoy life.
Bitterness taints everything.
When I read her words it looks like she just never got over it. Never got her personal closure.
Never got an emotional reaction from him that equals or validates the pain, bitterness, and betrayal that she felt from that situation. Whatever talking they did just didn't get it all out of her.
Goodness, I can imagine those conversations, we have all seen them, the constant "But Why?" even when the person just answered, because the argument has little to do with the details, its about the sheer emotion. The Rage.
In this situation it looks like she is actually suggesting counseling for them just so she can have that emotional closure on the issue (if that is even possible) to hurt him with words the way she was hurt before.
I can't really blame the guy for not wanting to go. Especially, if he concluded the affair and hasn't done it again.
*shrug* To him the issue would be over. She had the option of leaving then or any time since. She needs to get over it and stop letting her bitterness ruin any future, if it already hasn't.
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