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Leave him. Any guy who won't admit that there is a problem in the relationship, especially on based on infidelity has a problem. Maybe he thinks if he ignores it, it'll go away and she will just stop talking about it. But that is the kind of thing that doesn't go away. And the fact that he had the balls to invite her to the wedding, that's just, well, there aren't appropriate words for that.
I was also in a similar situation to Hootie. I was in an engagement for about 2 years, and we went through a rocky point. He turned to another woman, I tried to talk it out. Well, I suspected him of cheating, but also couldn't physically prove it. He wouldn't answer his cell in front of me, or go out of the room to take a call. He suddenly had all these new female friends that he spent lots of time with, telling me, well, I can't talk to you about stuff sometimes, so I talk to them. After a whole drawn out thing, he finally admits he has been cheating and with a girl I had known personally. He promised to change. I never did see that change, and ended things much too late. The trust was gone, and he didn't feel the need to fix what was broken. It took me a great while to realize that this kind of thing wasn't going to get better, and he didn't care enough to work on it. The hardest thing was realizing that I could do better and have a healthier, more positive life without him, but it was so very true.
Like Hootie said, he should be bending over backwards to get her to stay. If he doesn't want to fix something that is obviously causing her distress, and the marriage is floundering, she should get off the sinking ship while there's she can. Why stay in something that doesn nothing but bring heartache?
Feel free to pm me if you need to talk.
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