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Originally posted by PhiMuJulia
i mean its not a gut feeling, these guys both seem very nice right now, but I don't know either of them well enough to tell, but its just ironic that in one day i find out from various siters that these guys are control freaks.
ok my friend situation-her boyfriend calls her every 5 minutes literally, for nothing just to bitch and he HATES that she hangs out with me, even if we are shopping, one night we were just driving around and talking, he called her 12 times in an hour, she didn't answer cause she didn't feel like dealing with him, as soon as we got back to her place he was pounding on her door at 12:30am!!!! i was like break up with that psycho, she's like definatly next day she's having unprotected sex with him...i've given up on the whole situation!
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I think you can handle yourself. You sound like you know what you want. Don't judge them by other sisters' opinions; see if they live up to your expectations first. Like you said, it's all fun and play right now, so let things flow until you need to make some choices.
As for your friend, it really sound more like a dependency on the sexual and emotional aspects of a relationship, not really control. Yea, he's doing all the psycho stuff, but it could just be his moronic paranoid brain worrying about her and wanting to keep her to himself (yea, i don't understand why guys get like that). Personally, if there is no violence going on (dear g-d, call the police if he ever touches her) then you really can't help her. Let her learn from her own mistakes.
I'm not saying dump your friend, just stay out of the relationship matter. People who think they are in love don't give a shit about what other people say. It's damn near impossible to reason with someone who is so involved with another person, so just let it be. Just my opinon, but it's what i know from experience.
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