MIDWESTDIVA and POPLIFE:
I never said anything about outer beauty being better than inner beauty. If the woman I were attracted to radically altered her look to one that I did not prefer. I'm not being superficial. If you met me and liked me because of my business/ business casual style and short wavy hair, you would be upset if I grew Rasta style locks and nappy chin beard. If you said, "honey, I don't like that look, I preferred you in the manner in which I met you". Is that superficial or a legitimate. Of course, if there were some "real or legitimate" reason for the change, it would not bother me. Also, I did not say that I preferred long or short hair. Just that I wasn't into radical changes, especially those made for "statement" purposes. Weight gain is natural with child birth, and if you are the mother of my child, my love is endless and without prejudice, but if your gaining two or three dress sizes because I'm treating you to some nice restauraunts, somebody going to Jenny Craig.
POPLIFE:My suppositions were stricty from the tone and information in your post. I don't know many girls who cut their own hair at age 12, nor did you mention that you permed your hair or about imitating a friend. That is a whole lot of new info. You gave the inference that your hair was naturally long and so-called "good". Thats why everyone was complimenting it. You never mentioned that your "long, good hair" was impractical, so my assumption was that you were being Afrocentric by the tone of your post. I never assumed that short equaled manly. I know plenty of women with nice, un-permed hairstyles. Twists look great on some women. I love Jada and Halle and Toni. My point being, that is how I came to love them, with their hair already short (no radical changes)
Again as with MidwestDiva, the question of who am I to tell her what to do with her hair? Nobody, I guess according to you. If I can't be consulted and asked my opinion on such a radical change, then I don't need to be with ya. Just as if you were short and natural and then shoewd up with a foot of weave. That aint the girl I fell in love with. My love is unconditional, what I like isn't.
My statement about white men referred to your statement about "why is long, pretty hair so coveted in our race". I was just giving you an example of how others have the same emphasis on not wanting their women to cut their hair. Hair is coveted in every culture. In most cultures, the cutting of a females hair is taboo and only to be done as a sign of morning or great personal shame.
No I don't know you. I didn't say that you did any of those things. I didn't assume anything about you other than you cut your hair to make a statement. That was from the post before you explained yourself in detail.
Love, peace, and hair grease. Or to be politically correct, should that be carrot oil?
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