Such a long post and none of your points had anything to do with me.
Like I said before, I cut my long hair because I was tired of long hair and wanted a change. I was 12. I didn't know anything about long hair, short hair, good hair, bad hair, or black hair politics. All I knew was that I wanted to change. My friend had a short bob and it was cute, so I go one too. It really wasn't that deep.
I had no idea what I was getting into when I went natural. All I knew was that it was perms too expensive, too painful, and to damaging for me. So I did the logical thing: I STOPPED.
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I see sistas such as your self and others cutting your hair as a sign of rebellion against a perceived preference for longer hair because its seen as so-called "good" or more like "white".
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When I stopped straightening. I was forced to see the truth about blacks and their beliefs on hair that I never knew existed. I stopped perming and “growing” my hair to be more practical. It was people like you that assumed I was trying to be afrocentric. That’s what gave me my “militant” side.
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If my lady decided to cut off her crown of glory for a buzz cut or short afro, she doesn't want me for her man anymore
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You also assume every short natural style is a manly style. That's very stereotypical. My mane is not long but it's very feminine. I get sweet comments from men all the time about my hair. Not every pretty/sexy/sultry style has to be "swingable".
That goes back to my original question. If your girlfriend has long hair and she decided she wants a Jada or a Halle because it's too fly not to try, then who are you to tell her otherwise? It's hers! And what if she opts for a short afro for the same reasons I stopped perming or because she wants to "rebel"? If you leave her even though she is the same inside that shows that your love is conditional.
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BTW: white men don't like their women to make radical changes to their hair either. All the white guys I know hate Faith Hill's new short hairstyle.
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I don't care what white men like their women to do. My father is a black man and if a male child comes out of me, he will be black. So I only worry myself with black men and think only of white men when I am forced to.
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just so you know, I'm very Afro-centric, but I don't need musical selections, dietary changes, change in religious affiliation, or fashion statements (hairstyles, nose rings, khufis, headwraps, dhishikis) to prove it.
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How do you know I do? You’ve never seen me or, nor do you know me. Don’t ASSume anything.