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Originally posted by DoggyStyle82:
POPLIFE: I have plenty of Black Enlightenment and have enough self awareness to KNOW WHOM and WHAT I am. I see sistas such as your self and others cutting your hair as a sign of rebellion against a perceived preference for longer hair because its seen as so-called "good" or more like "white". I read why Jill Scott wears her hair "natural" and not "oppressed" as it was when she used to relax and style it. Hey, if your hair symbolizes your "Blackness" or your freedom from society"s definitions, more power to you. If my lady decided to cut off her crown of glory for a buzz cut or short afro, she doesn't want me for her man anymore. A statement against how I like you when I first met you, is a statement against me. If you are going through some Afro-centric, feminist, liberation type thing, then you are no longer the woman that I fell for. If your hair has become a political statement or some new manifestation of insight into your inner-self, then I have to roll, because that means that you have issues and you are bound to be going through more "changes" trying to find or getting to know the "real you" Have fun finding yourself. Call me when the journey is over. We all have to be true to self. If you need to cut you hair to feel better, then by all means, do so. Long is no better than short, nappy no better than curly, but leave politics out of the hair. You can be Afro-centric with styled hair or long hair if thats what God gave you. BTW: white men don't like their women to make radical changes to their hair either. All the white guys I know hate Faith Hill's new short hairstyle.
P.S. just so you know, I'm very Afro-centric, but I don't need musical selections, dietary changes, change in religious affiliation, or fashion statements (hairstyles, nose rings, khufis, headwraps, dhishikis) to prove it.
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Excuse me Doggystyle82, but that sounds extremely superficial. Is outer beauty more important than inner beauty? What if your woman cut her hair short because she wants a lower maintenance hairstyle which would allow her to focus her energy on other more important matters? What if she cut her hair short because her hair is badly damaged from overprocessing? What if she just wants to try something new? What if your woman underwent chemotherapy and lost ALL of her hair? Wearing short styles or naturals isn't always about politics.
Let's take this one step further. What if your woman put on 25 lbs? Would you leave her because she is not longer the slim, trim woman you fell in love with?
Please don't take this as a personal attack. I am just curious.
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