[GMUBunny]

From the opinion of a child of an alcoholic:

Listen to everyone on here. He HAS to WANT to quit. Anything you ever say to him about a drinking problem will just make it worse. Although he hasn't been violent with you, don't think it can't happen. I always thought my mom could never hurt me when she was drunk, and then one night she threw something at me. Never think you know them...ever. You need to get help for yourself, first. Go to the Al-Anon meetings. It may seem cheesy at first, but believe me, these people understand where you're coming from. That support has helped me stay sane the past 6 years and I've learned a lot. As for him... unfortunately, most alcoholics won't quit till they hit rock bottom. I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's true. Rock bottom is commonly a car accident where they kill or severely injure someone else, or something to that affect. Of course, some alcoholics would be hurt enough if their spouse left them to change their ways... but more often than not, that would just trigger more drinking. Good luck and if you need anything, we're all here!