I see this thread has turned into "cheating: right or wrong" and Cheating: could I? would I?
Let me say this....until you have been there, don't say what you would or would not do!! I have a VERY good friend (for real!! a friend!!
)who is in the process of picking up the pieces of her marriage because her husband had a one night stand. If most people knew the turmoil they have been through in the past year, they would not say that folks just decide to look the other way. They are both 90s career oriented type people and by her own admission, started taking things for granted. He was working late hours, and so was she and one of his co-workers was there to show him how 'grass can be greener' on the other side. He slipped, now let me tell you, I was mad as a heck when she called me crying and what not and wanted so desperately to tell her to pack her bags and come stay with me (we had had those If my husband even
thinks about cheating on me...conversations in the past), but I tried to let her figure out what she wanted to do. She decided to stay. Her rationale was that when she made vows for better or for worst (in front of God and all) that she did not put a stipulation on how 'worst' was 'too worst' and that God does not recognize divorce. Now of course, being the good Christian woman that I am, I wanted to remind her that Jesus gave her an out with adultery (I think it is in Matthew), but I kept my big mouth closed!
They are now trying to work it out, he is trying to regain her trust, and she is not trying to kill him everytime she looks at him. While I hate that my sister had to go through this it tells me a couple of things:
Just 'cause the cheated on mate stays, does not mean they are stupid or looking the other way. In this disposable society that we live in I think it is probably harder to stay than leave!
And ANYONE (yep, including you!) is subseptible to cheating if you don't guard your gate at all times. While I don't distrust my husband because of the actions of another man, I will never say that he will never cheat, we (he and I) just try to do everything in our power to make sure that the ground is not fertile for that kind of activity!