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Originally posted by Ideal08:
LMAO LMAO LMAO!!! Soror, I'm so glad I'm not the only one!!! That is some funny mess right there!! 
I have a few comments on this topic. One, I'm with jazbri. Later for that "someone didn't get their needs met" crap. If you (not anyone in particular, ya see, just the general you) are not happy, then STEP. Evidently you are happy enough to try and stay in the relationship and cover your a$$.  If you want to stay, then you need to talk. If you don't want to talk, then WALK. And that whole "boys will be boys" garbage, later for that, too. I am so tired of women making 'excuses' for some of these men, and them making 'excuses' for themselves. Men cheat, they are being men. Women cheat... yall know how it goes. Whatever.
On another note, I have a question. In this thread, we have been discussing marriage, primarily. What about just plain old relationships? I mean, aren't relationships the prequels to marriage? Should you work any less hard at salvaging a relationship as opposed to a marriage? (This is not a rhetorical question.)
I would never cheat. I'd just as soon say good-bye than hurt someone I supposedly care about.  It's not worth it. I could never knowingly make a decision that I know is going to hurt someone I love. Never. And what's worse, it's karma. Everything you throw out in the universe comes back to you. I'm straight on that.
My mama always said, (and I only recently found that it's in the Bible) "What you do in the dark will ALWAYS come to light."
Just my .08 . . .
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Well, I agree with everything you stated. And as far as a relationship, I feel one should put just as much effort into it as a marriage, to an extent. Of course that's if you really think you will or could marry that person. I know my boyfriend and I put a lot of effort into our relationship but it's all fun. We definitely are each other's best friends. We watch and attend sports event together, spend hours on end talking about life, careers, and what we expect from marriage, family, children, etc., experience new activities together and so on and so on. And most importantly we always ask each other if there is anything we can do to make the other happier (if we're not already, which we are
) or if there's something we're not doing that we should be doing. The funny thing is we've been together for soooooo long (don't ask
) but I promise it never gets old. A relationship is like anything in life: it's what you make it. If it's worth having, than it's worth working for.