It is so true that we never really know what is going in a marriage. Some folks put up a good front. I'm getting married soon and only intend to do it once. People just aren't communicating and like DST Love said no one seems to be willing to put in the effort these days. A marriage takes work.
I will share a story with y'all though. A relative of mine came home and discovered her husband had been cheating on her in their home while she working her second job on the weekends. Although they dated for five years, they had only been married two months!
Everyone in the family said it was the ultimate betrayal but we kept quiet. She tried to make things work, but he just wouldn't do right. After she decided to file for a divorce a year later, the gentleman who served as the best man at their wedding came to her and asked for forgiveness. He was feeling guilty because he knew before they got married that her husband was cheating and didn't say anything.
Now, the ex-husband realizes what he had and lost. Now, he wants to talk. Now, he is willing to do whatever it takes. Even if they managed to stay together, she could no longer trust him because in her mind she would always relive that scene in her head. Fortunately, she has moved on with her life and carries no excessive baggage from the relationship.
I'm sorry for the long post, but Bobby Earl I'm with you on this one. I would never cheat on my husband. I don't intend for my marriage to ever get to that point, but if it does I would find it very hard to stand by my man after that. It would take some serious talking, therapy, couseling, reflecting, whatever to get through it.
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