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I agree with everyone else. He has a problem which can be dealt with if he chooses to get help. That's half the battle. I suggest that you find an alcoholism expert who can advise what to do. Prepare yourself that he might not want to get help or even believe he has a problem. He might think that you have a problem. I wish you the best. I hope that it works out.
Here is an anecdote.
Someone I know was in a four year relationship with an alcoholic. She constantly 'helped' him and cleaned up the mess that his disease caused. He always promised to stop and get help, but never did. She finally had enough and left him. His life has gone from bad to worse now. He continues to behave in the same way only he has escalated from alcohol to drugs. He finds women who are willing to sacrifice themselves to help him which enables him to continue in his addiction. These women get sick of him and move on, yet somehow he manages to find other women. At first each thinks that she can rescue and change him, but only he can change himself. It is sad. He has had people who had loved him, but he abused that. Alcoholism has been his lifestyle for nearly a decade now. It is a terrible illness. There is help out there, but he doesn't want it.
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