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Wow, you are me from the past, I relate, I felt the same way, I thought I was just destined to be single forever, had no idea what was wrong with me. I realize now that it was my attitude towards myself, people really can see how you feel about yourself, and it casts a negative or positive glow over your attractiveness. No matter how physically good looking you are, negativity, bitterness, self loathing will send it all crashing down. Now I'm in a two year relationship, and I can tell you that these things happen in the most random ways. I can also tell you that perking up just the smallest bit of aggression works - I asked out my current boyfriend myself, and I like to think I shocked him into a date, hahaha. I was lucky to get it right on the first try, but you may find that you have to go through a few guys to find that yes - welcome to what guys deal with on a regular basis! Just dust yourself off and move on, it will happen. Also, if you're very shy and just can't deal with that method, have you given a thought about online personals? I'm surprised no one mentioned it yet, but I know there's still a stigma about finding creepy perverts. I think that nowadays more normal people are using them, and as long as you proceed safely(talking for awhile before meeting, meeting in a public neutral place(and possibly in a group), you might find that to be a good option. I have a few friends that have had good results this way, I dunno if that's because it's NYC, a notoriously difficult place to meet people conventionally, but yeah. And actually, I heard of a site once where friends, coworkers or on-good-terms-exes of eligible guys actually recommend them to other single females. Unfortunately I can't remember what the site was, but if you can find it, that could be a good way to find a "certified nice guy."
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