VERY LONG POST, TAKE HEED!!!!!
Okay, now I've seen the show, now I feel warranted in voicing an opinion.
My take on Christian:
I don't believe that Christian is as innocent as he claims to be. As those of us who watch regularly know, this was not his first faux pas, but in my opinion, it was his least offensive.
I was a lot more OUTDONE when he told Ayanna and Laterrian that he "couldn't understand them sometimes, because they talk JIVE." and that sometimes he just, "says yes" even though he doesn't know what they're talking about. He must have access to somebody telling him something about black people to use the word JIVE, unless he's been wathing videos of THE MACK, or AIRPLANE 1, because who in the world still uses the word JIVE.
Then there was the time when he told Ayanna and Laterrian that he "must have some black in him", because he has big lips and a large nose. Now, he was told with love, respect and maturity that what he said was insulting. His response was to basically tell Laterrian that, "you know I don't mean it as an insult", so basically, quit tripping. What were Laterrian and Ayanna supposed to do, keep grinning until Christian stated making them sit on the back of that stupid bus. Or wait until he started getting off the bus late at night wearing a white sheet and carring a gasoline soaked cross, and some matches? Come on. IGNORANCE IS AS IGNORANCE DOES!!!!!
My question for Christian is this.... If you took a long vacation with your in-laws for the first time, and you kept putting your foot in your mouth, are you going to continue making yourself look like a jerk, or are you going to ask you spouse what is the best way to connect with your in-laws?
He had PLENTY of access to black people who were willing to assist him. HE NEVER ATTEMPTED TO GET AN INSIGHT. Christian spoke first, and dealt with cause/effect second.
My take on Ayanna:
I do not condone violence. I thought Ayanna was WAY OVER THE TOP in her reaction to the situation. There was absolutely no reason for her to put her hands on Christian. After all, she's not out at Ku Klux Klan rallies roughing up folks, so I don't agree with her methods at all.
However, Ayanna recently suffered a terrible loss. Speaking as a person who lost her father just nine short months ago, it's a devastating blow. Things that would be a 3 on a 10 point scale, suddenly become a 5545454 to the 11th power. I think christian really caught her off guard with his comment. The day before, she had opened herself up to him, and to hear him make that comment probably felt like somebody rpping the scab off of a sore that was just starting to heal.
My problem with Ayanna wasn't that she wouldn't apologize to Christian. Heck, who wants to apologize when they feel that they haven't done anything wrong? My problem is that she wouldn't OWN her behavior. She wanted to say "It's just me being real to myself. I couldn't sleep if I wasn't true to myself." That's bull and she knows it.
My question for Ayanna is this... If she could have a conversation with cancer, would she want cancer to tell her that cancer took her mother because that's what cancer does? Cancer was just being itself? It couldn't sleep at night if it wasn't covering, destroying, rotting and breaking -down the organs of humans (my father died from liver cancer)? Or would she want cancer to say yes, it took her mother, but maybe there was another way it could have been handled.
Okay, these are just my opinoins.
Miss. Mocha
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